the Lists

The love dare had me making lists. One that lists what I love and admire about my husband. The other the things that I hate. I was a little worried that my hate list may rival my love list. So I sat down and I am proud to say that the Love list was at least twice as long as the hate list.

Some of the hate things I don't think had the same value as the love things. For example, I wrote that I hate when he leaves his laundry on the floor next to the hamper. On the love list I wrote how is a great father to our children. To me they are not equal and I would gladly deal with misplaced laundry if it meant that my children had a loving and supportive father. Which they do.
There was another part to the dare yesterday. I had to chose one positive attribute from the love list and thank him for it. I found this to be harder than most of the dare thus far. I think it was very humbling. I chose to thank him for how supportive he is about the things I want to do; my running, my chocolate business, my art class, and the Run for the Unborn. His response was priceless.

"what do you want? You aren't usually this nice to me. Unless you want something."

I had to spend the rest of the night convincing him that all I wanted to do was tell him how much I appreciated him. Atleast he is noticing that things are different.